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How to increase Americans chances of a long youthful life?

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Are you one of the many Americans in life-threatening DANGER?!! Are harmful forces insidiously destroying the quality and length of your life? Do you even know whether your life is at risk?

Scientific and technological advances have greatly increased the average lifespan. With youth no longer short-lived, adults can now look and feel like they’re twenty, thirty years younger. Regardless, multitudes of Americans are excluding themselves from such opportunities. Fortitude: Health and Wellness Inc. reported that about 129 million people are overweight or obese. In 2000 17 million people had diabetes, and in 2003, only one year, 1.1 million people suffered from heart attacks. Heart disease is the first leading cause of death in the United States, and strokes are the third leading cause. It is time to become informed; often, these and many other ailments can be avoided. The fountain of youth may be only a myth. But with the right choices, you can come close to it.

An American Psychological Association (APA) survey found stress to have a direct relationship with the health problems in the country’s health concerns. Stress has the potential to impair health directly. However, as Americans handle stress with dangerous behaviors, stress indirectly becomes a major cause of unnecessary deaths. According to the American Psychological Association Practice Directorate, money, work, children, and the health problems of loved ones are the greatest causes of stress. Ironically, personal health was also included on this list. As many people worry about their own health, they in effect, increase problems and possibly shorten it. Tension and anxiety are often difficult to prevent, especially in today’s society. However, by not using the following coping strategies as stress “solutions,” Americans can greatly increase their chances of a long youthful life.

Perilous Lifestyles:

As stressful lives lead to poor nutrition, people entrap themselves within a vicious cycle. With so many people constantly on the go, eating a healthy, balanced diet has become more difficult than ever. The American Psychological Association found a direct correlation between eating fast food and levels of stress. Fast food, detrimentally high in calories, high in saturated fats, high in sugar, and low in whole grains, frequently becomes the norm. Proclaiming solutions to this nutrition deficient, too many fad diets focus on weight loss at the expense of nutrient assurance. According to the APA survey participants, one out of every four people relied on “comfort foods” when feeling stressed. Prolonged periods of anxiety cause the body to feel tired. Popular “comfort foods”, such as chips and ice cream, which contain un-complexed carbohydrates and high levels of fat, fail to serve as good energy-sources. The mere short boosts of energy caused from high sugar contents only leaves the body with greater feelings of exhaustion. Insomnia, mood swings, hypoglycemia, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, and weakened immune systems have a tendency to result from the combination of stress’s negative blood-sugar affects and the addition of a high-sugar diet. Needless to say, further complications, such as depression, diabetes, and obesity, often develop. Within an environment of such poor health, chances of congested heart failure greatly increase. The APA survey found that sixty-five percent of people whom relied on “comfort foods” were overweight and had twice the chance of potential obesity. Obesity, America’s severe growing epidemic, continues the negative chain by exposing the body to even further health complications.

Nevertheless, healthy, low-risk lifestyles need more than nutritious food in the diet; vitamins and supplements are essential. Today’s society makes it virtually impossible for even the most dedicated health food loyalist to receive all proper nutrients from food alone. For one it becomes more and more difficult to find healthy quick, dining-out food, but the hectic schedules of personal and professional life greatly decrease consistent home-cooked menus. Secondly, popular un-organic methods of growing, raising, and processing inevitably lose some of the natural nutrients. While compensating for nutrients lost and ignored in meal plans, vitamins also serve as natural and holistic alternatives to medications and offer solutions to medication shortcomings. There are many naturopathically trained physicians that can construct vitamin programs suited for individual needs.

Drastically causing health complications and premature deaths, cigarettes continue to bring a great threat to society. Even with all the research proving their dangers, cigarettes and other forms of tobacco are still used by a large percentage of Americans. Often attracting people bothered by stress, cigarettes too can actually increase feelings of anxiety. Including problems such as depleted bone density, emphysema, lung cancer, and heart disease, the risks of tobacco are innumerable. Until the elimination of tobacco, Americans will never achieve the possibility of a long healthy life.

Sedentary jobs and interests focused around televisions, video games, and computers continue to decrease activity levels. Public and personal transportation enables greater distances to be covered, and the transportation modes of walking and bicycles become less frequent. However, although societal changes largely reduce exercise opportunities, Americans must find ways to remain active. The lack of exercise is greatly responsible for the rapidly increasing rates of American obesity. Further, without activity people will not have the strength or endurance to maintain youth or longevity. Walking wherever possible and exercising at a gym serve as alternatives. Not only offering countless health benefits, but exercise also provides positive outlets to diminish stress. Activities such as yoga offer exercise while directly aiming at stress reduction.

Stress may be overwhelming, but the health problems caused from unhealthy reactions may be deadly. Modern society may pose an increasing number of obstacles, but you do not have to become a victim. By choosing nutritious foods, vitamins and supplements, and exercise and by avoiding tobacco, a long life of youth is more possible than ever. Start avoiding or reversing the danger in your life today.

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The keys to healthy eating

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Healthy eating is one of those things that everyone wants to do, but no-one is quite sure how to. Food companies all want you to believe that all you have to do to be healthy is buy whatever you’re selling, and people will pay high prices for ‘health in a bottle’ type products. The reality of healthy eating, however, is much more complicated than that.

The key to healthy eating is one little word: balance. You need to balance all the different food groups in your diet (that’s diet as in things you eat, not diet as in weight loss). That means carbohydrates, fats and proteins should all feature equally in each meal you eat. Start paying attention to the backs of labels, where it should be clearly marked how much of each nutrient your food contains, and steer clear of foods that are very high in any one thing unless you are planning to mix them with something else to make a meal.

The average person eats too much carbohydrate (in the form of sugar and pasta) and fat (unhealthy snacks), but nowhere near enough protein. If you want to balance your diet, in most cases, the first thing you should do is cut back on the sweets and snacks and eat more meat and dairy instead – it might sound obvious, but it is surprising how people will go out of their way to balance their meals and then ruin it all with snacks.

Apart from carbohydrates, proteins and fats, the other things you need to worry about are vitamins. Most vitamins are necessary in at least small quantities for your body to function properly. While it might seem tempting to just take vitamin pills, it is pointlessly expensive when you could just as easily eat fruit and vegetables and get all your vitamins that way. Also, don’t skip breakfast, as most cereals have many vitamins added and can be a good way to make sure you get enough.

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How to stay sharp and ready to face the daily grind?

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The challenges of every day life like enduring the tiresome commute to and from the office; the stress and anxiety from your demanding work; and all the family commitments that you need to attend to — these are all recipes for burnout.  Even on weekends, you can’t seem to get some rest.  No matter what you do, you still feel dead tired.  But like most people, you know that you must not give in to all the pressures at home and at work.

If you’re always tired, maybe it’s time for you to consider the following tips on how to stay sharp and ready to face the daily grind:

Lessen your sugar intake

Contrary to popular belief, sugar should not be considered a main source of energy.  In fact, sugar is mostly converted to fat if it is unused through physical activity or exercise.  High-sugar, high-calorie food and beverages like softdrinks, chocolate bars, candies, and desserts should be avoided or consumed in moderation.  The “low” that comes after the “high” of a “sugar rush” can actually make a person feel more tired.

Decaffeinate

When excessive fatigue hits, many people would grab a cup of coffee for a quick “pick-me-up” fix. But a recent study showed that excessive coffee drinking can lead to exhaustion. The temporary boost simply masks the fatigue instead of relieving  a person suffering from it. In addition, just a little too much caffeine can leave you feeling overstimulated and shaky.  The first step to eliminate our exhaustion is to lessen your coffee crutch. You can make the transition by kicking your habit of taking coffee over the weekends, or by limiting your coffee intake to only two cups a day.

Get enough sleep

Getting quality sleep is very important. If you are still tired after a full night’s sleep, chances are, something is bothering you so much that you lose sleep over it. Furthermore, if you are trying to sleep and often resort to the use of sleeping pills or alcohol, you may be in for a surprise. Abusing these products can just make your sleeplessness worse in the long run because you may become prone to over-dependence.

Refresh yourself often

Too many commitments or conflicting schedules often cause you stress and anxiety. Try to learn and practice time management. Create an unstructured weekend.  Try meditation techniques that will help you  relax.  If the budget permits, take regular quick vacations to allow your mind and body to be refreshed.

Chemicals plays a part on zapping your energy

Today, there are more harmful substances found in our food such as chemicals, pesticide residue, and other toxins.  Even the air we breathe contains harmful pollutants like sulfur-dioxide and nitrous oxide fumes. As a result, many people suffer from low-grade poisoning than can cause weakness.

Here are simple ways to cope with these environmental toxins:

  • Invest in an air purifier or filtered air conditioning
  • Have your water supply tested
  • Search for organic foods that are free of chemicals
  • Keep away or secure bottles of solvents, paint, and cleansers. Make sure its lid is sealed. Store it in your attic or basement.
  • Don’t smoke or drink too much alcohol
  • Drink at least 8 glasses of water a day and have a high-fiber diet

Take some supplements to fill the gap

Proper diet is essential but even with a good diet, it still feels short when you still lack the essential vitamins and minerals that you need to keep yourself up and running. Try taking the following supplements:

  • B Complex – These vitamins help the body convert sugar into fuel. Take 50mg twice daily.
  • Vitamin C – A well-known vitamin known for fighting fatigue and infection.
  • Iron – If you eat a lot of junk food and you are having heavy menstruation, you become prone to  iron deficiency.  Taking at least 50mg of iron supplements, two or three times daily will help  replenish the loss iron in your body.
  • Magnesium -You need this to maintain your energy levels. It is best to take at least 200mg of magnesium citrate twice daily.

You’ll feel more refreshed if you follow these health tips.  Aside from a good diet, plenty of rest, and regular exercise — it is important to practice positive thinking or optimism, which is another key to overcome physical and emotional tiredness.

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How to choose the right pillow to ensures a good night’s sleep?

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There are many sleeping pillows to choose from, cotton, wool, latex, polyester or natural filling like goose down. Most pillows come soft, medium and firm. A down bedding specialist will carry high quality goose down that will stay lofty. You will be able to try many pillows with different qualities of goose down and each a different firmness. Generally, people who are stomach sleepers require a soft pillow, back sleepers a medium pillow and side sleepers a firm pillow, unless they are petite then a medium would be better. Some down bedding specialists will offer the service of adjusting the pillow once you have slept on it a few nights. Now that’s the perfect sleeping pillow.

A high quality goose down pillow with the right amount of filling will cradle your head and keep your head at the correct angle for a good night’s sleep. A high quality white goose down and the proper care will prevent the pillow from flattening out, keeping the loft to support your head and spine in the correct alignment. Regular cleaning and conditioning (not washing or dry-cleaning) by a down specialist will not only sanitize the down, it will re-fluff it and keep it lofty, and remove any dust. You should clean your down pillows about every 3 – 4 years to keep them fresh and fluffy. Choose a high threadcount for the casing to ensure the down will not “leak” out. Swiss Batiste is the lightest, most durable and the most downproof material with a very high threadcount. Any cotton cambric 300 and over will be very durable and downproof.

So for that all important personal pillow, get what you really need for a perfect night’s sleep. Choose a high quality Eiderdown or white goose down pillow and have it made just for you. You will be rewarded with years of sleeping without that pain in the neck. Once you have your perfect pillow, get an extra one for traveling. You will not want to be without it.

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How to prepare emergency procedures for natural disasters with your family?

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With the various types of natural disasters that have taken place in recent years, many people have started to realize that they may not be prepared for such events to take place. While no one wants to think it can happen to them, we have all seen the footage of Hurricane Katrina and it was a reality that this type of natural disaster is something that does happen to real people. Even the fires spreading out of control in California remind us of the types of natural disasters that can take place.

It is important to pay close attention to the warnings that hopefully will be broadcast on TV and the internet if a natural disaster is possible. It is unbelievable the number of people that ignore this information. If you are asked to evacuate the area do so as quickly and calmly as you can. Rescue efforts may not be available for those that remain behind. It is a good idea to have a battery powered radio that you can carry with you to continue listening to the instructions as you are traveling.

You should have an emergency supply kit on hand at all times just in case you do happen to be in a location where a natural disaster happens. Bottled water and canned foods can be stored for long periods of time. You want enough for each family member for at least five days.

Should you have to remain on your own for a few days until rescue teams can reach you these items will help you to survive. The food in your refrigerator can spoil if the power goes down which is common after a natural disaster. Make sure you keep medications on hand for those that need them on a regular basis.

If you have small children in the home make sure you have the necessary supplies on hand for them. Stocking up on personal items such as diapers, toilet paper, and toothpaste can help you to stay healthy during a natural disaster. Since you may be without power for several days you will want to have lanterns and flashlights readily available.

A small first aid kit with essential items can be useful because you never know when someone will be injured as a result of a natural disaster. Do your best to clean the injury and prevent infection until proper medical care can be received for the individual. Many people worry about their pets during a natural disaster but you may not be able to keep them with you during that time. If possible though store food for them as well so that you won’t be sharing the food you stored for your family with them.

A natural disaster can be very scary for everyone, but especially for children. Make sure that everyone is able to get plenty of rest and that children are allowed to openly share their feelings. Too many parents think it is best not to tell them what is going on but that tends to make them more afraid as they definitely know something is taking place around them.

Hopefully you will never have to experience a natural disaster but it is wise to be prepared. Having the essential items in place that your will need can make the difference between your survival after the event takes place. It is a good idea to practice emergency procedures for natural disasters with your family as well.

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Understanding about overweight people’s feelings

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When is it too late to start exercising and eating healthy. Some people say never, I disagree with that. I think it would be hard to do that when you are 6 feet under because you never started eating healthy and exercising. But as long as you are still breathing, it is not too late.

If you are overweight it makes life much harder, getting up and down, walking anywhere, much less trying to exercise. Out of the corner of your eye you see people staring and whispering. They might as well go ahead and point, too.

The best time to start an exercise program and eating healthy is when you are young. Unfortunately that is not always the case. As a person gets older, that old saying, “It is hard to teach an old dog new tricks”, is very true, but not impossible. For whatever reason people tend to be less active.

At any age a person should and can improve their way of eating and getting some kind of exercise. You don’t have to quit eating, if you do that, you might dry up like a prune. Learning a new way of eating and enjoying new foods, with a friend or group, is a good way to lose the weight.

Walk with a friend 2 or 3 times a week. Start off walking short distances and increase it a little at a time. You’ll be surprised at how much better you begin to feel each day. Between the eating healthy and exercising you’ll feel like an new person in no time and life will be better and easier.

Soon those same people who were staring and whispering will come up to you and say, “Don’t I know you, you look so familiar, but I just can’t place you?” And you will smile and say, “You must be mistaken, that was another person.”

Start today with your new way of life; you’re going to love the way you feel.

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Why most people lose a significant amount of weight right away on a low carb?

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“I tried that diet and lost 8 pounds in the first week!”

“I’ve gained three pounds in one day! It must have been the cookie I ate or maybe the mashed potatoes!”

Stepping on the scale can become an anxiety filled event that leaves people wondering where they went wrong when the numbers don’t go in the right direction. This leads to panic and usually ends with blaming a particular food item that really wasn’t the culprit. Everyone who has been on a journey to lose weight has been there before. Even though you are following your plan and exercising regularly the number may go up 1-2 pounds or even up to 3-4 pounds creating unnecessary guilt that we have failed somehow. If it’s not always food that makes our weight creep up then what is it that causes these fluctuations on the scale?

When trying to lose weight the scale often becomes the only measurement of success and this makes it difficult to remember that every time we step on a scale it is measuring every part of our physical being at that moment in time, which means it measures our fat, muscles, organs, tissue and water weight. Body fat is not the only thing being measured. While organs and tissue don’t change much; fat, muscle, and water do change which can result in fluctuating numbers on the scale.

Water weight can affect your total weight anywhere from 1-10 pounds and sometimes even more. It is important to understand what kinds of dietary factors can make these fluid shifts happen. To start, many of the high protein, low carbohydrate diets can cause a dramatic shift in your water weight. This is because as you cut back carbohydrate intake your body starts breaking down the stored carbohydrates (glycogen) to use as energy, and this breakdown causes the body to excrete large amounts of water. Once the body begins to use stored fat for energy, weight loss slows. This is the reason why most people lose a significant amount of weight right away on a low carb, high protein diet. Extreme low carb, high protein diets can potentially lead to dehydration because of this significant fluid loss.

When a person following a low carb plan eats a carbohydrate-rich food they can easily gain 1-3 pounds. However, this weight gain can be misleading because it is usually your body replenishing the fluid it lost and not gained fat. This 3 pound fluctuation becomes frustrating for many people and they end up yo-yoing back and forth with fluid weight thinking that it must be the half cup of rice they had the night before that caused them to gain that 3 pounds when in fact eating the rice just allowed them to regain some of the fluid they had lost from following a strict low carb plan. The fact is carbohydrates do not affect your weight quite that simply. Excess carbohydrates can strongly stimulate insulin production, which promotes fat deposition and increases appetite. This kind of weight gain will happen gradually, not dramatically overnight.

Sodium is another dietary component that can lead to fluid gain. Sodium can cause the body to retain fluid, leading to these frustrating daily weight fluctuations. Some people are more sensitive to sodium than others. Watch your diet and see if your weight gain corresponds with a high sodium meal the day before. For example, eating out in restaurants can often increase your sodium intake significantly.

The best way to tell if you are retaining fluid is to pay attention to your body. If you get indentations on your ankles and lower legs from your socks then you are retaining fluid. If you wear rings and they become tight and leave an imprint in your fingers when you take them off then you also retaining fluid. Any kind of puffiness in your skin is a good indication of water weight.

The bottom line is that it takes 3500 calories to gain or lose 1 pound of body fat. This equates to an extra 500 calories a day over 7 days to gain a pound. This means if you gained 3 pounds in one day you can chalk it up to fluid weight otherwise you would have had to consume 10,500 extra calories that day which is not likely! True weight gain happens gradually and likewise we lose it gradually. Check your weight weekly instead of daily and look for overall trends. If you are seeing dramatic daily changes in your weight, it is likely the ever-changing shifts of our body’s water weight.

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How to find genuine and reliable site to buy steroids online?

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Are you aged enough to use steroids? Are you looking to buy steroids for legitimate medical use? Are you looking to buy steroids online?

If you are really affirmative about all the above questions, you can easily buy steroids online. Even if, you are old enough to use steroids, you should start using steroids only after the advice of your doctor. Once your doctor gives you nod, you can go buy steroids online.

It’s extremely easy to buy steroids online. There are plenty of sites that can help you buy steroids online. You just need to sit before your computer connected with internet and log on to one of the genuine online drug stores selling steroids online.

However, before you buy steroids online, you must check out several online steroid profiles, steroid articles, and side effects of steroids over dosage. Steroids, you know, are the drugs derived from testosterone” that is a steroid hormone from the androgen group. It is primarily secreted in the testes of males and the ovaries of females although small amounts are secreted by the adrenal glands. On average, the adult male body produces about twenty to thirty times the amount of testosterone that an adult female’s body does. Testosterone is the principal male sex hormone and an anabolic steroid. It plays key roles in health and well-being in both males and females. It helps enhancing libido, energy, immune function and protection against osteoporosis.

Steroids help regenerating you vigor during the fag ends of your lives. Steroids are helpful when your bodies lose power to produce enough testosterone. Thus steroids help you live healthy life during later years of your lives.

Steroids however are often used as performance enhancing drugs by athletes, bodybuilders, and sports persons. The use of steroids for such purposes is unethical and illegal. This is steroid abuse, which often has serious side effects and deadly consequences. So, steroids are helpful medications if they are used correctly and high time.

While you buy steroids online, it’s extremely important to make sure that you are buying genuine steroids and in genuine prices, as there are several sites selling fake & spurious steroids online. You should buy steroids online from only the genuine and reliable sites. You should better do some research on internet to find genuine and reliable site to buy steroids online.

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How do you Control Dust Mites?

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They are tiny. They are dirty. There are probably thousands if not millions of them in bed with you every night!! They are called dust mites and if you suffer from asthma or allergies, they make your symptoms even worse. So whether you have an adjustable bed or a regular bed, these little critters are nothing but a nuisance.

Dust mites make their home in mattresses, pillows, blankets, quilts, carpets and fabric covered furniture, thrive in the summer and usually die in the winter. They may continue to thrive in the winter if your house is warm and humid.

The bedroom is an area that has an environment that the dust mite loves. An adjustable bed, or any bed for that matter, can contain hundreds of thousands of them and an old pillow can have 20% of its own weight made up of dust mites, dead and alive, and dust mite droppings.But mainly their droppings. Kind of makes you look at your bed a little differently tonight.

Why do they love to get in bed with us ? Because most animals, including humans shed skin flakes every year. We all naturally lose skin, head and pubic hairs by the thousands every year. A household of four normal adults shed over three pounds in weight of skin flakes annually. Over 80% of the dust particles floating in the air and settling on your furniture is made up of dead skin cells. Since dust mites eat dead skin cells, our beds are like an all you can eat for free smorgasbord.

Dust mites are related to the Spider and they have eight legs, but no eyes and no antennae . Female mites lay between 40 and 80 eggs in a lifetime which lasts up to seven weeks. The good news is that they are tiny. Just a gram of dust may contain up to 5,000 mites, and an ounce of dust may host 150,000. You just cannot see them crawling about, but they are there.

How do you Control Dust Mites ?

  • Pesticides are not approved for control of house dust mites because they can damage to you as much as them.
  • Replace feather and down pillows with synthetic fillings.
  • Enclose the mattress top and sides with a special synthetic cover.
  • Vacuum your mattress thoroughly especially the base and head of the bed.
  • Keep the mattress as dry as possible; dust mites like it damp, especially with sweat.
  • Change and wash pillowcases, sheets, and under blankets regularly.
  • Vacuum the bed base and around the covered mattress weekly.
  • Wash all bedding frequently in hot water (60oC weekly). Wash curtains regularly as well.
  • A dehumidifier helps because house mites need high humidity to live and grow

*Throw the bed-clothes back and open the windows wide, to have a good blow through. When you make your bed, you cover up the little critters and make them feel ,well, as snug as a bug in a bed.

Where Children Sleep

  • Keep toys that will accumulate dust out of the child’s bedroom
  • Avoid stuffed toys
  • Use only washable toys of wood, rubber, metal, or plastic
  • Store toys in a closed toy box or chest
  • Avoid upholstered furniture and blinds.
  • Use only a wooden or metal chair that you can scrub. * Use only plain, lightweight curtains on the windows.

Good luck on getting these little creepy crawlies out of your life. The last thing you want to get in bed with are eight legged freaks.

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What do you need to build a relationship on solid grounds?

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The most significant thing you can do in any relationship  is to be honest and gain the trust of your partner. But if the relationship is a “toxic relationship”, you might want to find the best solution that works for the both partners and be honest while doing so. You first need to decide if the toxic relationship is suffering because of your own issues, including behaviors. People change; emotions change and when we get to a point of no return, we can often search inside ourselves to see if the problem in the relationship lies within ourselves.

Relationships are based on trust and understanding one another. If you do not have trust and understanding, more than likely your relationship will turn into a “toxic relationship”. This means you and your partner need to find a solution to deal with the problem, or get out.

Building a solid foundation is the first step to a successful relationship.  Foundations based on stability offer a rewarding, long-lasting relationship, while unstable foundations lead to breakups. Therapy is good, but if you can sit down and talk through your own problems this is the best solution and it will save you money.

Incompatibility can lead to breakup, thus weighing out your relationship vigilantly before committing more seriously to the relationship can prevent disaster. If you are already involved in a toxic relationship more than likely, you will need to evaluate the compatibilities. You do have the options of working through the incompatibilities or getting out.

Compatibility extends to family history. If you are suffering problems due to family quarrels, the ride gets strenuous. Families that tend to like the person their child is with, is less likely to give you problems. Many persons who begin relationships and have been with their mate for sometime may find that neither party is compatible. The relationship can still work if the two of you communicate and comprise a plan that both can agree on.  Read and learn the steps in good relationships by buying books that offer a good strategy for the incompatible couples.

Many times people commit to relationships with the idea that they can change the other person later. This is never good! Either you like whom you meet, or you do not. No one can change another human being, the person must have the desire to change him or her self, and the first step to change is acceptance and then willingness to make the changes.

One should be skeptical of those who vow to change for you. Often the promises are not met, or the person has “hidden terrors” that could be forced onto you later. If you are a dreamer, you may look at your mate as a fantasy. This is not good either. You lose the benefits by not getting to know the person you have mated with or you wake up from your dream and find that you made a serious mistake.

The chief focus to keep in mind is to communication, spend quality time, stay focused, and lay a good foundation for your relationship; keep it honest and learn to trust one another, with unselfish motives.

As you can see, sharing plays a large part in love and relationships. When two people share, they are giving something to the other that leaves a lasting feeling of joy and love. Two people working together without selfishness often build a relationship on solid grounds, and often endure through tribulations, joyous moments, and so forth. Relationships built on solid grounds rarely fall apart when troubles come their way. Thus, enhance your toxic relationship, or get out!